Your Divine Helpers are here to help you take off your blinders and more honestly assess the difficulties in your intimate relationships. Although you’d prefer to believe that ignorance is bliss, the truth is that denial is not a river in Egypt, nor is it a genuine form of protection against unhappiness. Your guides gently ask you to summon the courage to honestly admit the real problems that exist in your relationships. As difficult as they may be, until you do so, there’s no chance that these shadows will ever heal. So, for example, admit when your wife isn’t just tipsy, but, rather, is drunk, as she can be on many nights. Or admit (at least to yourself) that when your son says he can’t find a job it’s because he isn’t looking that hard. Or that when your partner says he must work late every single night for months that an affair or other digression is likely. Most important, admit what you might be hiding from your loved ones: Acknowledge your fears, addictions, excuses, and failures honestly and with compassion. Realize that what your mind blots out, your heart knows . . . and so does everyone else. In other words, when you’re in denial, you’re only kidding yourself. What your mind blots out, your heart knows.

Your Divine Helpers want you to acknowledge these unpleasant realities because until you do, you’ll be stuck with them. Not every unpleasant reality needs to be challenged or changed, however. Sometimes it’s best to compromise, or let things be. If your partner is generally sloppy, for example, but is otherwise a gem, let it go. However, if your partner is in serious trouble (or vice versa), you’re only harming yourself and others—and perpetuating the problem—by denying it. Your Divine Helpers’ message: “Take off the blinders, and be open to the truth about others and yourself. Only then can you learn and grow past problems.”

You’re faced with many choices and aren’t sure what to do. Leave or stay in a job? Terminate or recommit to a relationship? Stop or continue a creative project? Go to work or stay at home with the kids? Life is an endless stream of choices, and doing what’s best is never a simple thing.

Fortunately, your Higher Self can help you resolve these difficult decisions, especially if you’re willing to let some of the balls you juggle drop to the wayside for now. The key to making the best choices is to simply follow your heart and attend only to what you care about right now. Focus on priorities that feed your spirit, and don’t become overwhelmed by the demands and expectations of others.

Ask your Higher Self to help you discern and trust in what requires your attention right now, and be willing to disappoint people. Your Higher Self assures you that what falls to the wayside isn’t important in the long run, despite the drama of the moment. The message for you is: “Don’t try to be all things to all people; it’s a waste of time, and you’ll surely fail.”

Now is an important time to contemplate your place in the world. Pay attention to your influence on others, and note that you’re a part of a big community. Recognize your interactions with those around you, and respect the fact that no matter how well you may succeed on your own, you must still depend on others in myriad ways for your comfort and security. You’re aware of this every time you switch on a light and enjoy instant electricity, or turn on a faucet and have clean drinking water at your disposal.

Your Divine Helpers are present to remind you to appreciate your fellow human beings and take nothing for granted. Recognize your need for others, and the unspoken gifts they share with you. Move beyond your self-interests right now, and participate in a common effort. Ask yourself how you might contribute to the greater good. Your Divine Helpers’ message: “Be responsible for your part in the great scheme of things.”